How is it that 3 years have gone by? It just doesn’t seem possible. I want it to slow down, but at the same time I’m loving watching them grow and learn. They’ve come so far in the last year.
Language and Communication
Wow! They are talking up a storm these days! We still have to translate for people most of the time, but the sentences are definitely there. And I do believe we’ve entered the “Why” stage with Lucas. It happened overnight a few days ago. Now, any time I tell him something he responds with “Why?” again and again, no matter how many times I answer the question. Thank goodness Kyla’s not doing it (yet). Though I’m sure it’s only because she’s just letting Lucas do it for her (like almost everything else). It amazed me Wednesday when N and I decided to each take a kid as we ran errands, then swap mid-way. The constant chatter from each of them is astounding. I’m used to it from Lucas, since he talks all day long, but when I had Kyla it was surprising how much more talkative she is without her brother doing it all for them!
I really, really want to get them each into a class. Kyla wants to do ballet and Lucas wants to do gymnastics. Unfortunately, because of N’s schedule, it was impossible to work it out. But now that they are 3 I think there are drop off classes available so I wouldn’t need N to be home. I’ll have to wait for the next round of classes in the Fall, though. It’s fun watching them “do ballet” or “do ‘na’tics.” Lucas can do a full somersault on his own! Oh, and we got a new wooden play set for the back yard Thursday (Thanks, Mom!) and both kids are already pros at climbing the rock wall.
We’ve been working on writing a little lately. Nothing serious, just trying to give them an idea of how to hold a pencil (crayon) and the basic form for letters. Every now and then they will accidentally write a letter and get so excited. Thursday we played with chalk outside in the rain (it was only sprinkling) and Kyla squealed “M for Mommy!” Sure enough, she’d scribbled what looked like an M. They don’t really have the skills to write on their own yet, but when I give them a worksheet with a letter to trace they are getting pretty good.
Let’s see. They know all their colors and shapes, can count to 10 consistently and sometimes as high as 15, can sing along to the ABC song (not quite ready to sing it on their own), sing several other songs on their own (like Twinkle Twinkle Little Star and Row, Row, Row Your Boat), can recognize MOST letters (we’re still stuck on about 6 of them), are recognizing that letters put together make words… When we stop at a stop sign they tell me “S-T-O-P, Stop!” and they can recognize that Z-O-O spells zoo. I’m constantly amazed at the things they pick up. Like the time Lucas told me it was going to rain. I asked him why he thought it was going to rain and he said “Because there’s clouds.” What a smart boy!
They both have their shy moments, but they’ve become much more social than they were. I noticed in April when we had several large gatherings to attend that they were much more willing to separate from me and play with other kids and adults. When I went to volunteer at my coop I was able to send them off to play on the play ground and they only came to me once or twice. The rest of the time they were having fun with the “big kids” as they say. It’s been fun watching them play with their 5 year old cousin the last couple of weekends, too. They really have a lot of fun.
We haven’t been doing as many play dates as we used to. Mostly because schedules are harder to coordinate than they used to be. Especially with summer traveling and whatnot. I’m starting to wonder if I should join another group, perhaps a MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers), so that they have more opportunity for social interaction. The MOM group I’m in doesn’t seem to do many play dates anymore, and the ones that do happen aren’t always shared with the whole group, so we haven’t played with those friends in a long time. We still try to get together with E & N as often as possible, though we haven’t gotten to in a couple of weeks because of illness and traveling. They talk about them constantly, though, and said they wanted them to come over and be pirates and princesses with them. I love how much they enjoy using their imaginations!
We seem to have come to the point in their eating where they are just like any other kid, regardless of how they were introduced to food. Lucas will eat just about anything (usually), but Kyla will tell us she doesn’t like something before she tries it, even if she’s had it before and loved it. They also have gotten to where they throw a fit if they don’t get the food they wanted (even if it’s not what they asked for). We had quite the ordeal at a restaurant yesterday when Lucas changed his mine 3 times and when the food came Kyla decided that what she’d asked for was not what she wanted after all. What a mess! However, I can’t complain too much. They really do eat pretty well and the coop we’ve joined has gotten them to eat a wider variety of fruits and veggies than we’d been exposing them to before. As a matter of fact, Kyla loves to eat lettuce! Who knew? And raw bell peppers (mostly red, but she also likes the others as well). Lucas loves vegetable soup, carrots, broccoli… Like I said, he’ll eat almost anything!
I’m still pushing to keep their nap the way it is. They really do need it. There are times when they fight it hard. And times that no matter what I do, one or both of them just won’t sleep. But when that happens, we’re almost certain to have a horrible night’s sleep with night terrors and other sleep disturbances. The last week and a half has been crazy busy with all the birthday festivities, so their nap and sleep schedules have been off. Which has resulted in multiple terrors from Kyla. It’s a pain, but at least MOST of the time we’re able to keep them on schedule and we do pretty well. That doesn’t mean we always sleep through the night without incident, but they sleep pretty well. I’m not fond of the 6:30 wake up time (though we make them stay in bed until 7), but I suppose it could be worse. We’ve also had issues with them not wanting to go to bed either at nap or night time, so we tried a sticker chart to get them to stay in bed and be quiet. It didn’t really work. It’s hit or miss on whether or not we’ll have to go into the room and quiet them down. Which is pretty annoying, but probably pretty typical.
Lucas continues to tell us “I love you” multiple times a day. I think he’s figured out that it helps him look cute and maybe get his way. One day I was getting onto him about something and he looked at me with his long eye lashes and said “Mom. I love you, Mom.” It was hard not to relent, but I said “I love you too. But you still need to make better choices.” Or something along those lines. Kyla doesn’t give out the “I love you”s as freely, but when she does it makes it even more special.
Kyla still has her baby (and several others) that she will play with, feed, and sleep with. And when a real baby is around we have to be careful that she doesn’t knock them over or smother them with affection. Actually, that’s true of Lucas as well. They really love babies! LOL
The time outs are not working as well as they used to. Most of the time there’s not a lot of reason to need to put them into time out, but when there is it’s becoming less effective. They just say “I’m sorry” to get out of it or tell me “I calm down now.” I’ve been working on finding other ways to deal with some of the issues we have occasionally, but haven’t really found the magic wand. I’m ashamed to admit that we have resorted to spanking, which I hate. I feel badly afterward every time. I want to change that, then find myself losing patience and we’re right back where we started. And N is more apt to spank than I am. It bothers me, but I don’t know how to change his reactions to situations if I can’t even control my own. This is definitely an area of parenting that I need improvement in. I’ve been praying about it, but I still haven’t found my answer.
I can pretty much say that both of them are fully day trained. We do have occasional accidents, but that is usually when they are busy playing and don’t get to the bathroom quite fast enough. There was an incident last week where Kyla peed on the floor at my sister’s house (I was not there) and everyone blamed Lucas, even though his pants weren’t wet. They thought he had taken his shorts down and peed on the floor. It wasn’t until I came home and Kyla got on my lap and I said “Why are you wet?” that the truth came out. 😦 However, to be honest, Kyla has had next to no accidents in months, including night time, so I might not have checked her either. Lucas still has a hard time staying dry at night, but he does occasionally, and he has had a few accidents here and there. Most of the time we’re great, though.
We had their 3 year check up today and here are their stats:
Height- 36.5 inches (35%)
Weight- 31.2 lbs (55%)
Apparently they don’t measure heads anymore.
Height- 37.5 inches (49%)
Weight- 31.2 lbs (44%)
Yes, they weigh the same. LOL
I thought it was weird that Lucas is no longer in the 70% for height. We changed practices (same doctor, different office), so this office didn’t have our previous records yet. When I voiced concern the doctor said it could be because they switched from laying down to measure to standing up. She suggested we try again next time we come in, just to check.
No shots this year, which was great!
This year has gone by so fast. I’m amazed at how much they’ve learned and developed. I love seeing them take everything in. For their birthday they got a ton of dress up clothes and their imaginations are going wild. I love it! I am looking forward to seeing what the next year brings.